Life happens

by Danielle on July 21, 2012

in health, pregnancy, Uncategorized

When my husband was diagnosed with cancer the first thing we did was go to the fertility clinic and make a bank a tube of my husbands finest swimmers. We had an eight week old baby at the time, a baby that was to be our last. We didn’t know if he would he alive in a few months time and having more kids was the last thing on our minds.

After my husband finished chemo we were told the likely hood of us falling pregnant without assistance was pretty much zilch. My husband sat there a little defeated while I silently doing cartwheels inside my head. I’d just spent the last nine months dealing with three kids and a husband with cancer. I was done, diddly done. My husband however had other ideas.

The baby topic has been an on going issue in our household ever since my husband finished treatment, every time one of the kids reached another milestone and every time the kids did something absolutely cute/feral or just plain crazy. It was constantly on his mind. But my answer was always the same. Three was my number.

Everywhere we went people would always ask if we were going to have another? Perhaps a boy? And my answer was always the same. I’d tell them we were blessed with three and to have a fourth would require ivf and I just didn’t think health wise I had it in me. ivf always makes people act funny so the conversation would always turn quickly to something light and fluffy and a lot less painful and it almost felt like I won the battle for yet another day and could breathe a sigh of relief.

The last few months life has been crazy and stressful and just full on, but in a good way. Luigi was busy at work, I took over co-ordinating the local paper, our social life was booming, we’d had two trips home to the nt to visit luigi’s dad, we cancelled our overseas trip and so much more.

A few weeks ago when we were back in the NT I just felt like I was constantly going down hill. I was sitting in the lounge room at 7pm and I had decided that I had enough. So I pulled on some clothes and dragged myself down to the after hours clinic and plonked myself on the chair to see the doctor.

I sat in his office and told him all of my problems, he gave me a full check up and said I can’t find anything wrong with you. Honestly, I think your just a little stressed, you need to go home, have a rest and tomorrow you need to book yourself in and get a massage.

I went back to my car and sent a text to my mother: the doctor said nothings wrong and I should just go and get a massage. I don’t think so!

Then I started thinking about a conversation we had with friends just a few days ago. We were all sitting around the table and they joked how funny it would be if we were to have a surprise baby and it hit me I couldn’t remember the last time I had my period. I drove two blocks to the supermarket and headed straight towards the pregnancy tests. A girl I went to high school with was down there stacking shelves and I wasn’t in the mood for small talk so I did a few laps and returned a few minutes later and grabbed a pregnancy test off the shelf.

I returned home by passing my family in the lounge room and ran straight to the bathroom. The first test came up straight away so I tested again only to be met with the same results. So I tried my luck a third time and you guested it..two pink lines.
That was a month ago. I spent the next few weeks blocking it out of my head, there was so much going on how on earth could we bring a baby into this world. Two weeks later I toilet over the top..I was hormonal and cranky and I finally told my husband. He was stunned and amazed, we didn’t think this would ever happen, we were happy this three and then his head grew, bigger then I had ever seen in my life, he thought he was superman. The next day I booked myself in for a scan and found out I was 8 1/2 weeks.
Were home now and life has settled down a lot. We’ve had time to process our thoughts and really get use to the idea of going from a family of five to six. I’ve only told my family so far and now all of you {big step}. Right now I think I’m still living in la la land..waiting to come down to reality, most days it still doesn’t feel real but I guess will get there eventually. Right now were feeling nervous but excited and we can’t wait to see what life has in store for us next.
Most of the locals know by now I’m seriously huge and there is no hiding this belly and I’ve already grown out of a large portion of my wardrobe. I’m a huge believed in time and the fact that sometimes these things are already in motion and the best thing you can do is throw caution in the wind and roll with it hoping all of the pieces come together. On Monday I will be 11 week with an estimated arrival date of mid february.

{ 38 comments… read them below or add one }

Georgia @ The Snowball Effect July 22, 2012 at 12:12 am

Congratulations!
Life has a way of surprising us doesn’t it.
Heres to the next 29ish weeks being smooth sailing.

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Trudie @ My Vintage Vow July 22, 2012 at 5:05 am

Congrats Hun, what an amazing unexpected surprise.
It’s funny how we can have plans for or life, but these little loves find their own stars to fly in on. This little surely has other plans for you.
Take care, rest well and I’m sure just like most other things in life, it will all perfectly fall into place.

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Kim H July 22, 2012 at 7:46 am

Oh wow! Congratulations! I so hope everything’s going well for you and that you’re not stuck with the dreaded morning sickness xx

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Sophie July 22, 2012 at 8:33 am

Dani that is fantastic! It is just meant to be, baby four was destined to join your family. I can vouch for four, four is awesome!

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Daisy July 22, 2012 at 8:41 am

Congratulations!!!!! I understand what a shock this must have been! You make beautiful babies though!!

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Talia July 22, 2012 at 8:45 am

Yay, yay, yay!!! Congratulations!! Hope it all goes smoothly & I (not so secretly) hope Luigi gets his boy! :-P
Whatever it is, you can be sure it’ll be beautiful, just like the others!!
Congratulations again, I love babies & am totally over the mooN for you!

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tatum July 22, 2012 at 9:30 am

Congratulations! Everything happens for a reason. Life with 4 kids is chaotic and noisy and expensive but its so very worth it. Hope all is smooth sailing during your pregancy. Tatum xx

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Cassie Nguyen July 22, 2012 at 10:07 am

Oh wow! Congratulations Dani!!

Sounds like it was more than meant to be. Violet will make an amazing big sister, and you an amazing mum of four.

:-) x

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Megan July 22, 2012 at 10:15 am

Wow, what a surprise! Congratulations. Four kids is hard work but is very rewarding in the long run, and seeing the interaction between them all makes it so worthwhile :) good luck.

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Jaimie July 22, 2012 at 10:25 am

Congratulations!

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Jo July 22, 2012 at 10:28 am

Oh Dani!
xxx
VERY unexpected, how you kept it to yourself for two weeks not even telling Luigi is amazing, but I bet you were in shock!
Can’t believe your GP didn’t do a pregnancy test. I had a similar experience when pregnant with G, even though I had been ‘trying’ for him for 18 months when I fell pregnant I couldn’t understand why I was so flat and tired, started taking supplements and going to bed at 7pm confused and bewildered … silly me!
Take care of yourself darling. xx

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Jess July 22, 2012 at 10:44 am

That is great news, things really do happen for a reason :)

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Danimezza July 22, 2012 at 10:44 am

Congratulations, that is amazing! x

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Jacqui (CRAP Mamma) July 22, 2012 at 11:09 am

Oh my! I had a lump in my throat and tears in my eyes reading this Dan. When life throws us something a little unexpected you just have to grab the ball and run with it hey. What wonderful news hun, really, truly wonderful news xx

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Katrina from The Block July 22, 2012 at 11:35 am

WOW! Congratulations to you! Such a lovely beautiful story and a gorgeous family. XOX

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bigwords July 22, 2012 at 11:36 am

Fabulous news! Congrats xx

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lizzy July 22, 2012 at 12:00 pm

A HUGE congrats to you Dani and Luigi – another beautiful child coming up! xxx

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Kelly Stoner July 22, 2012 at 12:02 pm

I am sitting with tears streaming from my eyes! I am so happy for you guys, and so excited to watch you go through another pregnancy! The Universe works in such beautiful and mysterious ways. I don’t think it will matter if this baby is a girl or a boy, either way formLuigi it is an affirmation that he is back better than ever! Love and light to you all xoxoxoxoxo

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Georgia July 22, 2012 at 12:48 pm

Dani! So exciting!!! You must be shocked and a wee bit nervous, but in a few months time I bet you will be wondering what you were ever worried about.
Congratulations. xxx

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Tracey July 22, 2012 at 1:14 pm

Congratulations Dani! That is a lovely story. What’s one more little bit of chaos to throw in the mix? Wishing you a happy and healthy road ahead. xoxo

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Claire July 22, 2012 at 2:43 pm

WOW – congratulations Dani. Looking forward to the adventures of this baby as much as I enjoy the adventures of Baby Violet.

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Louisa July 22, 2012 at 3:07 pm

Congratulations! That’s a wonderful surprise – what a blessing xx

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loulou July 22, 2012 at 3:57 pm

Hi Danielle,

that is the loveliest news I have heard in a long time – it is a day by day but so understandable to be so excited.
I’m excited for you :)

I often wondered what it would be like adding another to our family – I’m too old now and think my husband would lock me up. :)

best wishes to you and Luigi

x Loulou

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Claireyhewitt July 22, 2012 at 5:32 pm

No one ever regrets adding another baby to the family.

When an unscheduled baby comes along it can often be a wonderful blessing! COngrats to you all!

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Kim-Marie July 22, 2012 at 5:43 pm

Congratulations! X

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Maria Tedeschi July 22, 2012 at 5:47 pm

Congratulations. I have 4. I found having 3 under 5 yrs alot harder than having 4 under 9yrs.

Such an amazing story.

Love & stuff
Mrs M

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Alex July 23, 2012 at 9:41 am

Congratulations! How exciting is this. Hope this one is a good sleeper too. x

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Lisa Barton-Collins July 23, 2012 at 3:44 pm

OMG Dan CONGRATULATIONS!! What a wonderful surprise! I love your comment about rolling with it – sometimes the universe just sends you along on your path without you having any say in it.
No more sushi for you! bwahahahaha ;)

Big hugs
xxx

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Lisa Jay (photography) July 23, 2012 at 4:45 pm

Amazing. That’s wonderful news, even if a bit of a shock for you. I hope you are feeling well. I love that your hubby felt like Superman :)

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trish July 23, 2012 at 6:46 pm

Congratulations such a feel good story to read Danielle.

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Terry July 24, 2012 at 2:24 am

Congratulations to both of you Dani, it was meant to be. I am very happy for you (and a little jealous of your mom with all those grandbabies LOL)

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Cherie @ raising master Max July 24, 2012 at 6:37 pm

Seriously, with kids as cute as yours … it’s actually just CRIMINAL not to bring another little one into the world!

But no, SERIOUSLY …

The biggest congratulations!

This has made my day. Absolutely made my day :)

Have a beautiful pregnancy, & I’m going to get in early …

BOY! ;)

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Edwina July 24, 2012 at 7:50 pm

Congrats Dani! Fantastic news for you. Xx

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stinkb0mb July 25, 2012 at 12:14 am

congrats x

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Gem July 25, 2012 at 8:58 am

Congratulations, What a gift. I too have 4 children all grown up now and the best of friends. When I look back life was crazy but never a dull moment I wouldn’t have it any other way. Enjoy your family your one lucky lady xxx

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Sarah July 25, 2012 at 7:20 pm

Congrats Dani! And Luigi and the girls too.
I found out I was pregnant at 8 weeks with Hugo too. I kind of knew but was very much in denial and then spent the next few months in denial too, much like you I wondered how on earth I would go mothering 4 kids. This little one will have 3 other mothers and a doting daddy to help you out. I look forward to hearing your news xxxx

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Kylie @ Octavia and Vicky July 30, 2012 at 10:57 am

Congrats, congrats, congrats! What a happy surprise. Life sure does happen!

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corrie August 4, 2012 at 7:23 am

congratulations! so exciting!
I remember I was driving and feeling so nauseous and realised I was late and needed to do test! was terrified to tell hubby as he always said 4 was enough, turned out he was thrilled we were having number 5 and I did give him a boy:)

good luck for the rest of the pg! 4 is such a great number:)
corrie:)

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